Alexander Technique, anxiety, Inhibition, procrastination, stopping

I hope it will be forgotten


I’ve been procrastinating about this blog, lots of things going on socially and in my thoughts. It’s the procrastinating that’s interesting me, why do I procrastinate?

I get a voice in my ear saying; “don’t do it yet”, ” you don’t want to do that” and a host of other reasons why I should procrastinate.

I guess my reasoning is that if I don’t do what ever with the hope that it will be forgotten and I don’t need to do it.

But why do I do it, my guess is at sometime somebody criticised me about something I did, I don’t know what it was and who it was, but I’ve developed the need to procrastinate on somethings I do but not everything.

There’s a couple of things if been deliberately procrastinating with this week to observe how I feel when the procrastinating thoughts rise.  For me I get a tightness in my stomach and some light headedness, it feels comforting and familiar with a touch of anguish. It feels nice but with an imminent threat of failure. It heightens my awareness with a sense that I need to do something.

I have a sense of driving with the handbrake on.

Something is holding me back, a fear of failure, criticism, shame, I’m not good enough etc.

I’ve developed a strategy to combat these thoughts and with a bit of practice you may become proficient.

The first step is the hardest, notice when it happens and stop. Sometimes it is just too hard to stop, if that happen just notice what happens and don’t be hard on yourself. Perhaps reflect on why you had to carry on, again don’t be hard on yourself.

When you do notice the need to procrastinate and can stop, ask yourself what would it be it a just didn’t complete the task. I’m guessing you may feel that you are in a better place because you have stopped. Now play a game with yourself, plan what you need to do for this task, now break the task into smaller tasks that are real and achievable in a very short time, if the task can have an identified measure of success all the better. The measure of success is your own measure, nobody else needs to know.

Decide when to start and get on with the first smaller task, once you have completed it stop and reflect.

Was the task successful, did you achieve your measure of success, was the task too big or scary for you. If it was too big perhaps you may notice some other future tasks are big as well.

With you knowledge of the first task, reflect and adjust your measure of success, stop for a moment to review your plan and when your ready get on with he next task.

Again stop, reflect, adjust the plan, ask yourself if you are still meeting the original goal. Has your original goal changed, do you need to modify your tasks?

Stop, reflect and start on the next task, continue working thought your tasks to meet your goal.

Once you have time to reflect and consider what is going on, you are bringing out your authenticity, with your authenticity you may notice changes in yourself and how other respond to you. Be content if you find the original goal you were procrastinating on has changed, that is the power of authenticity.

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Alexander Discovery, Alexander Technique, Asthma, Asthma, breathing, walking

Fancy a walk in the forest


I’ve been thinking for a while how I can help others with what I’ve learnt from Alexander’s discoveries. The truth is, it is probably everyone in the world, that is a little to big for one person – I’ll be worked off my feet!

So I best refine this down a little, my choices are, a geographical region perhaps near where I live or people who enjoy similar activities to me but are struggling to get about to enjoy it, or it could be both.

I love walking but not so long ago asthma restricted how far I could walk, I’m well now without the use of drugs to support me, it was Alexander’s discoveries that let me be free of my breathing difficulties. I don’t know how far I can walk now but I guess it’ll be exhaustion not asthma that will stop me.

Have I narrowed enough to a community that I can help, I don’t know but it would be fun to work with them. A couple of inside workshops and then out for a walk so that they can discover the discoveries in the safety of a room and then practice out in the wilds. Bring your dogs and have more fun, I’ll even supply the tea and coffee, anyone fancy bringing the biscuits?

I’ve identified a venue, the owners don’t know yet. I’ve got a good idea what I want to say for the workshops, I think dogs will have to stay at home for the first few of workshops  as this will give you time to discover a natural way to breathe, this type of breathing is a benefit to all, so if you just get out of breathe on hills it will as well, or out of breathe when running it will also help.

Now I just need to find people who want to come along.

  • Walking magazines
  • Walking Facebook groups
  • Local walking groups
  • Local advertising
  • Doctor referrals

I assume some of these will be better than others and there’s other things I could focus on, any ideas?

I’ll be taking the plunge soon on a series of workshops, anyone in the Forest of Dean interested? Please let me know.

Happy rambling

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Alexander Discovery, Alexander Technique, direction, End-gaining, Inhibition, intention, present, self-doubt

Something about nothing


My Alexander Technique odyssey continues, it has become an adventure where I don’t know the start or end and even where I am, I wouldn’t say I was lost as I know my intent but the events of my odyssey keep taking me in different directions. Take a few days ago, I discovered I can be angry and annoyed with complete presence, I was there grounded and really being in the moment, I had control of my thoughts, I had time to answer, my emotions and habits tried to rise, I stayed with them but didn’t respond to them, I was present and in control, it was wonderful to angry and annoyed knowing I was right*.  I haven’t had this experience for many years, my normal reaction is to capitulate and succumb to the others point of view and be wrong, I’d leave broken, desperate and not knowing what to do and what is really authentically right.

The trouble with capitulation is that I succumb to the rules and beliefs of the vanquisher, they are not my rules and beliefs, they probably don’t suit me but as I’ve capitulated so I try to make them fit. It is the trying to fit that is the problem.

Trying never works!

This not just my problem in my own little world but it is constantly happening throughout the world on a massive scale, country against country, opposing political parties and millions of people everywhere.

Perhaps what I recently discovered on my odyssey could help others,

  • Stop
  • Ground yourself and be really in the moment
  • Observe
  • Then make a decision
  • Test the decision, it must be authentic for you
  • Stop if necessary and make another decision
  • Repeat as necessary

Of course with many decisions you may come to an impasse with someone else, you don’t see eye to eye. If both of you have both come to an authentic decision for yourself but the decisions are different, that’s fine, now you have something to work as you and I understand each others authentic beliefs and boundaries. Sometimes the relationship can be maintained and the differences respected, for others building space between each other is one of the answers.

For me I much prefer to respect the differences of others and work together.

As with most of my blogs, the intent is to write a blog and not knowing its content and its end, I’ve done it again. The subconscious is wonderful, it is full of stories that just emerge if I allow, give it a try, I’d love to hear your stories. Here’s a plan

  • Stop
  • Ground yourself and be really in the moment
  • Observe
  • Make a decision to write a blog and POST it
  • Test the decision, it must be authentic for you
  • Stop if necessary and make another decision
  • Repeat as necessary

Today may not be the day for you to blog, maybe tomorrow will be the day for you.

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*Of course, this was from my perspective.

Alexander Discovery, Alexander Technique

Just being here


I did start a blog about Alexander’s secret weapon, but as I do I’ve lost the plot on that blog, so here I go again. Alexander discovered various things about how humans use and think how they use their bodies and there’s been a lot more studies that demonstrate the Alexander was on the right track, on some points he was spot on. So over hundred years have passed and some of us are still going on about what Alexander discovered. He may have borrowed, reused, rebadged someone else ideas but what is important is that he put these discoveries together in a usable package for all of us to use.

There are three main discoveries, I see his other discoveries as subsets of these three, please correct me otherwise.

The three are;

  1. The head neck back relationship
  2. Psycho-physical unity
  3. Touch

The head neck back relationship

My one sentence thought on this relationship is to imagine a garden hose, if it doesn’t have any kinks in it the water flows freely, the same can be said about the head neck back, if there’s no kinks in it, blood and nerve signals will flow freely. There is a warning here, if you have just pulled your head up you’ve just kinked your neck, I may explain in a future blog.

Psycho-physical unity

This seems rather grand so here is my one sentence. We are simply just one which includes the body and everything we think.

My one sentence just didn’t cut it as it’s a lot, lot more, here’s another try. The unity is a point in time when your psycho-physical reality is synchronised into unity. This takes practice as there are multiple dimensions to this unity. These dimensions are powerful and from my experience, they don’t like to be in unity, I get the feeling that they are like magnets, they just want to repel each other. The repelling is self-doubt, thoughts of not good enough and the myriad of other negative thoughts. The secret is to quieten these negative thoughts by doing nothing, allow these thoughts to rise and allow them to pass. Perhaps querying these thoughts by asking if they are true. My guess is that they aren’t true.

There’s even more nothing to do, that is to do nothing about your head neck back relationship, if you notice any muscle tension you are doing too much, just think about your head going up which allows your back to lengthen. Remember it is a thought, if there is any muscular tension you are doing something that you don’t need to do.

Touch

Alexander Teachers are trained to use their hands as another sense so they can notice what is going on with others, they can also use touch to help others to notice and sense what thoughts are like when your head is going up that allow your back to lengthen, perhaps another blog needs to be written.

This blog was intended to write briefly about being here, psycho-physical unity, the sweet spot to life. This unity doesn’t last long but can be continually refreshed by doing nothing, noticing what’s going on and having an intension to achieve something. My intension was to maintain my psycho-physical unity whilst writing this blog.