I had a very lucid dream last night, it’s still with me this afternoon, without going into too much detail it was about not holding myself back.
As with many dreams it was surreal reality, real people I know in what could be real situations, oh, with a dog (not a spinger spaniel) with muddy paws on a London bus.
I’m sure I’m like many others, I have a plan to do something then some thought or other pops up, “you can’t do that because ….” then I’m deflated and everything stops, if I’m forced to do something I know I can do well, another though pops up “you’ll get it all wrong” and then I mess it up.
Perhaps that sounds familiar?
Time for an experiment, either think back to one of those times it didn’t go to well or notice the next time you hear your words of doubt.
Are the thoughts a verbal thought, were you talking to yourself even if the words were silent? Mine are.
Now for the scary bit, what would happen if you asked for these thoughts to be quiet whilst you got on with your task. This is very difficult as I find these thoughts just want to chip in and take control. There is probably a few ways to quieten these thoughts, I find the best way is to go somewhere these thoughts can’t get to.
Intrigued, read on.
These thoughts thrive when I’m reflecting on the past or worrying about the future, they have free range in my thinking. The place they can’t get to is this very moment in time, I wrote about this place yesterday in the last grain of sand. Yesterday’s blog was how I had a panic in the sauna, panicking comes in many forms, my view on panicking is that it’s overlaying past events with future what ifs to guess what is about to happen. I may steer the outcome and fail fantastically, failing fantastically was in my verbalised plan but not in my original plan, my deep down plan, this plan was all about success.
Not holding myself back.
With a bit of practice you may start to notice some muscular tightening, mine is in my stomach, when these negative verbalised thoughts pop up. When I notice them it’s time for action, I observe something without judgement, if words rise I let them go and intensify my intention to observe something, for example, I’m in a hotel reception, there’s specks of dust on the white floor tiles. Just wondering, listening to the hum of busy people, I’m just here without judgment.
This does take practice, I’d guess, my whole life to truly not hold myself back, so there is no time like now to start.
I’d say practice, practice, practice, but I don’t believe in practicing, just do it or even better be it, be a non judgmental human being.
I don’t know what happened to the dog with muddy paws, I woke up