I’ve just got back from my walk with our dogs, put the kettle on and my wife said, “I suppose your are going to write then” I was thinking it but I didn’t know I was so predictable.
I was tempted not to write as I’d been caught out, my wife noticed one of my habits before me. I expect she knows more of my habits than she lets on.
Habits sometimes have bad press, they get blamed for things, they can put me and you into danger, they can be annoying. However without habits;
- I wouldn’t be writing this blog as I wouldn’t know where the key on the key board are,
- I wouldn’t be able to read or write
- I wouldn’t be able to walk to the computer
- I wouldn’t be able to understand what is being said
I fact without habits I wouldn’t be able to function as a human being.
Habits aren’t so bad after all, but I guess if you are like me you also have good and bad habits.
The knack is recognising which habit is good and bad.
Unfortunately putting habits in the good or bad buckets just doesn’t work.
I created all my habits for a purpose, as did you. My assumption is that my habits were developed to help me to survive at a particular time of my life, the habit was successful so it is kept it to be used again at some point.
My thoughts on habits are that they are a series of shortcuts that can be automated to make life a little easier. If you search around you’ll find volumes of books describing what others think about habits.
The habit may remain but the situation and environment when it was useful will have disappeared or changed, the habit is stuck in the past and is no longer relevant. We just keep using these habits over and over again, I’ve a few, probably loads; writing after a walk, is one I’ve just been told about.
It is very hard to notice your own habits; biting nails, a nervous scratch, a stutter, lower back pain, anxiety, writing after a walk, … .
Noticing is the first step in observing your our habits, sometimes you may need a prompt from someone, but what next? If the habit is stopping you getting on with your life then perhaps you may need some help so you can learn some simple techniques to allow you to fulfil you dreams. If you may want to know more then why not join my mailing list and I’ll let you into some secrets.