How much control do we have over our life?
We live by our habits, if our habits say something we obey, that’s right or is it that our habits are fooling us.
I think our habits are fooling us, we listen to others, family, friends, acquaintances, the media. When we hear whatever, we process it and save it for a response for another day.
- We get good news – let’s have a drink to celebrate
- We get bad news – let’s have a drink to commiserate
- A friend does something that someone you dislike does – you don’t like your friend anymore
- The media divides people up in to groups – you only like particular groups and distrust the others
There are many more habits that quickly cut in when you meet a particular stimulus. Suddenly you realise you can’t understand why you dislike someone and didn’t previously. What happened, you probably don’t know but your subconscious habits do.
You may have been worrying or fretting about something, either reminiscing the past and worrying about the future, then all of a sudden a subconscious thought, triggered by you worrying or fretting, jumps in and decides because your friends behaviour to someone you dislike you shouldn’t like your friend. Doubtful thoughts about your friend manifest and quickly turn into a belief, then separation and your friend disappears.
This may happen to you, you may wonder why someone hasn’t contacted you for a long time, you’ve may have behaved like someone you don’t know. Of course there are many other reasons friends drift apart, some stay whatever the circumstances,
What I’ve discovered is that I can let these sub-conscious thoughts in (I want to say ‘when I let me guard down’) when I’m distracted with thinking too much about and going there in my thoughts. Instead of staying in balance with the here and now, allows these thoughts about the future come to me.
- Being in balance I have choices in what I do,
- Being in balance my old habits don’t seem to be able to get to me
If you were in balance and your friend did whatever it was, your would let it pass after all it was your friend that did it not someone else.
Being in balance is more than you think it is, however once your understand what it is, you will discover it is something you where born with, you have been hiding it with all your habits you have developed over time.
Go find an Alexander Technique teacher to rediscover your balance.