The quality of contact with others is very important and if you contact without thought things will generally go wrong. This is not just about touch, it’s all forms of contact.
Following on from my previous post https://alexanderintheforest.co.uk/2019/10/28/why-do-i-keep-tripping-myself-up/ I mentioned non-doing, you may be wondering what that is.
It was something that was impossible for me to discover then one day someone said the right words to me and there I was with non-doing hands. It’s an exquisite place to be, neither doing too much nor doing too little, balancing on a knife edge in non-doing space.
I’m having difficulty in explaining this, as it is a non-verbal space hence my difficulty. Perhaps an example is when you master riding a push bike and can cycle without holding the handles, you are at one with your bike and the space and ground around you.
Non-doing is a quality of contact, it not just touch, it is all ways, speech, visual, energetic contact and the contacts I don’t know or understand. Years ago when we only had landlines without caller display, yes they did exist once. When my mother phoned I knew it was her before the phone rang, I picked the phone up and said “Hi Mum”, I was always right, she did the same to me when I phoned. So I assume contact can come in many forms.
From my understanding and experience non-doing isn’t available unless your in balance with yourself. An awareness of where I am physically, allowing my reflexes respond to gravity whilst I sit here writing, not trying to balance myself another way. An awareness of the room I’m in and my dogs enjoying the quiet energy that is allowed to manifest from my awareness. Knowing that I only have a single moment to enjoy and this is this one, now it has gone and now can enjoy the this one, these moments never stop and never stay.
Of course you need to plan and dream of things else you’ll be frozen by the moment, though it is beautiful to be permanently in the moment, it’s not productive, it doesn’t buy you food or pay the mortgage.
Being in the moment in activity with the awareness of yourself and the environment non-doing naturally becomes available, it cannot be done else that would be doing!
If you are intrigued and want to experience this, then perhaps contact me or another Alexander Technique Teacher.
I worked with someone recently and they said this awareness is like smoking dope, everything becomes extremely lucid, calm and beautiful.