Alexander Technique

It’s what people tell you!


How much control do we have over our life?

We live by our habits, if our habits say something we obey, that’s right or is it that our habits are fooling us.

I think our habits are fooling us, we listen to others, family, friends, acquaintances, the media. When we hear whatever, we process it and save it for a response for another day.

  • We get good news – let’s have a drink to celebrate
  • We get bad news – let’s have a drink to commiserate
  • A friend does something that someone you dislike does – you don’t like your friend anymore
  • The media divides people up in to groups – you only like particular groups and distrust the others

There are many more habits that quickly cut in when you meet a particular stimulus. Suddenly you realise you can’t understand why you dislike someone and didn’t previously. What happened, you probably don’t know but your subconscious habits do.

You may have been worrying or fretting about something, either reminiscing the past and worrying about the future, then all of a sudden a subconscious thought, triggered by you worrying or fretting, jumps in and decides because your friends behaviour to someone you dislike you shouldn’t like your friend. Doubtful thoughts about your friend manifest and quickly turn into a belief, then separation and your friend disappears.

This may happen to you, you may wonder why someone hasn’t contacted you for a long time, you’ve may have behaved like someone you don’t know. Of course there are many other reasons friends drift apart, some stay whatever the circumstances,

What I’ve discovered is that I can let these sub-conscious thoughts in (I want to say ‘when I let me guard down’) when I’m distracted with thinking too much about and going there in my thoughts. Instead of staying in balance with the here and now, allows these thoughts about the future come to me.

  • Being in balance I have choices in what I do,
  • Being in balance my old habits don’t seem to be able to get to me

If you were in balance and your friend did whatever it was, your would let it pass after all it was your friend that did it not someone else.

Being in balance is more than you think it is, however once your understand what it is, you will discover it is something you where born with, you have been hiding it with all your habits you have developed over time.

Go find an Alexander Technique teacher to rediscover your balance.

 

 

 

Alexander Technique

With freedom and ease, pain evaporates


What is the Alexander Technique?

When I first started with my first teacher, I wasn’t sure, after a break and then started with another teacher, I wasn’t sure, when I started with my teacher training, I wasn’t sure.

This was about six years in total that I wasn’t sure, I think thats long time not to be sure about something that I have stuck with and started to learn to teacher it!

What is the Alexander Technique?

  • most people think it is about fixing bad backs, or fixing shoulder pain or any other pain they have heard in conversation
  • those how have had lessons, again its about pain relief with the added bonus of the sense of lightness and lightness the teacher can give you.
  • for some teachers I’ve met it is about doing body work whilst being in balance.
  • for other teachers it is about teaching others to notice their habitual behaviours, inhibiting them and choosing something else or not.

The Alexander Technique isn’t for the faint hearted, it is challenging, very challenging. The objective of the teaching is to teach how to notice habits, those obvious habits and also those hidden and embedded habits within you and then choose what to do with them.

Of course with any training you can stop and start again when you are ready. Even one lesson will be enlightening. The more training you can afford and do, the greater the insight into how you live and react to your environment.

Many habits cannot be met head on as they will kick off and stand their ground, they need to be approached stealthily. That’s where the skills of the teacher come in, noticing and not approaching and sometimes not mentioning the habit. Engaging the client in an activity that circumvents the habit so to demonstrate the habit isn’t needed. This is the sense of lightness and freedom that is noticed that I mentioned above. This sense is fabulous but it doesn’t last very long after the session if you are reliant on the teacher. The art is to listen and learn what is being taught and then experiment as much as you can between lessons to bring about your own freedom and lightness.

The Alexander Technique is:

  • Discovering that there is a choice between a stimulus and your reaction that doesn’t have to rely on habits
  • Making the best choice for that moment brings freedom and aliveness to your live
  • You can use body work to discover your reaction to a stimulus and make a choice.
  • Making the best choice for a given stimulus generally releases muscle tension, with freedom and ease, pain evaporates.

Go find an Alexander Technique Teacher to get back your freedom and aliveness you once had.

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Alexander Technique

Two pints sober


The weekend is here, what shall I do?

There’s plenty to do but what do I want to do!

That’s the problem, I don’t know. My wife said; “why are you loitering around in the kitchen – go write a blog.”  So here is the blog. Now lets see where this leads?

I’ve decided to write a blog most days of this week, I’ve sort of been successful, well almost. I’ve done this loads of times, dieting, cutting out alcohol and coffee. I last for a few days then back to how I was. Recently somethings have been different, for the past few month I’ve lost the urge to drink alcohol, I do on occasion like when I was in Spain last week, I was enjoying the sun and the beer went well with the sun. Now back home the urge has gone.

I’ve got a few reasons,

  • I don’t like feeling drunk
  • I don’t like losing my freedom; can’t drive etc
  • I don’t like losing my freedom and aliveness; alcohol dulls this
  • I don’t like losing myself

In the past I used to like feeling drunk as I could lose myself, my freedom and aliveness and rediscover my drunken freedom and aliveness. My drunken freedom and aliveness was a reflection of myself without my fears and worries however it didn’t last. Years ago when I used to play snooker, I was Ok when I was sober, two pints I was fantastic, three pints started the rapid decline to hopelessness. Being two pints sober was enough to dampen my fears and worries, I had bravado, free from my inhibitions. I guess this is why I drank however I didn’t stop at two, three or four, as I drank more the more my inhibition reduced, however my moral compass reduced even more rapidly.

I initially stopped drinking a couple of years ago, probably teetotal for about a year, now I choose when I drink, just like Spain last week.

This wasn’t easy but I persisted. My tactics were very simple and easy, notice when I fancied a drink or when I met that habitual response for example not wanting a drink and going to a pub then the urge was huge. When I noticed the urge, I told myself not this time. Slowly the urges quietened down, the pub one is still there but manageable.

The reasons I mentioned above are my reasons now, I didn’t have a reason when I started, I’d set myself a challenge.

Of the reasons above it is ‘not losing myself’ that is the strongest, perhaps now that I’m more centred and balanced due to all the Alexander Technique training I’ve done I’m permanently two pints sober. Perhaps I should take up snooker again!

My next habit I’m playing with is drinking coffee, I really enjoy a Latte or an Americano however two or three a day they say isn’t healthy and they do eat into my wallet, it’s surprising how much they cost over a week. I’ve just finished week one with success, the plan is not to drink coffee when I’m at work, so I may relent tomorrow as it is Saturday. Again the same plan, notice the urge for coffee and say not this time. I now drink a lot more water to replace the trips to the coffee shop.

Me saying ‘not this time’ is a shortcut to noticing where I am in time and space and being very present. The urge then disappears as with other egoic thoughts.

If you want to learn how to be two pints sober without drinking a drop, why not contact me and I’ll tell you more.

I’ve decided, continue decluttering is this weekends job.