In many of my lessons I work with catching bean bags (they don’t roll under the furniture as balls tend to do).
Catching bean bags is a great stimulus for some, not so for others. A greater stimulus is not catching a bean bag and letting it fall by your feet.
We have had so much conditioning that letting something fall is a bad, even when there is permission to let it fall.
This conditioning has restricted your choices to only one;
CATCH THE BALL AT ALL COSTS.
This single choice is not restricted to catching balls but to many other activities in your life. Simple things like not walking under ladders, using your dominant hand for many activities, what you do when you awake up in the morning, what you do in the evening, how you respond to people, sometimes in very different ways to different people. These are all yours and my habits; an easy way to move through life!
Sometimes the easy way to move through life isn’t always the best option for now, though it may have been in the past.
My thoughts about catching ball are that you were either great at catching or go into panic with the fear of dropping the ball; I was in the later group. The fear of missing the ball and wrecking the game for others in my team was my overriding thought, so like others I tried really hard to catch, however the more I tried the worse I got; how could that be!
Life moves on, team games with catching balls stay at school, I go to work, however trying too hard moved with me through work and leisure.
- Trying too hard to please
- Trying too hard to be successful
- Trying too hard to be good
I’d been successfully conditioned at school, school was successful as I became an ace student at trying too hard and continued for most of my life.
However trying to hard has it’s limitations, there is
- only one choice,
- only one route
- only one option
That is to work hard trying to achieve your goals.
I’ve since learnt that I don’t have to catch the ball, I can make another decision, one of many options! The strange thing is when there are options are I free up, as do whomever I’m working with. When they or I choose to catch the ball we pick the ball out of the air instead of trying to catch. There is a lightness and freedom in their movement, they become happy and joyful. I regularly hear comments about their pain disappearing.
You may be wondering what is happening, pain in many people is manifested by their habits, their habits sending messages to muscles to tighten and keep tightening, muscles tire and eventually send messages to stop in the form of a pain message. We get stuck in habitual behaviour, we don’t know how to get out of it hence we keep recreating and empowering a vicious cycle, it gets worse and worse, and if you are in pain then the pain may get worse.
Rediscovering that you have other options breaks the vicious cycle and for a few moment pain disappears, this is what happened when we played catch. Unfortunately our habits are well embedded and we quickly return to our vicious cycle of pain. That’s where my training helps, I’m trained to notice through observation and to instruct you that you have other options to lead your life, these options will lead you to rediscover your freedom and aliveness you used to have whilst making mature choices in the way you want to live you life.
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