Alexander Technique, Inhibition, stopping

I should have stopped


This week I’ve had and still do have a stinking cold, enough to stay at home and miss a few days at work, but not enough to miss my Alexander Teacher Training; how wrong was I!

On Friday I decided to attend but just receive any helping hands to be worked on, it was great, my symptoms dissipated, I guess the cold was pulling me down and the teachers and fellow students work got my directions going up again, I thought I was over the cold.

So yesterday, time for school again, I forgot Friday’s decision to receive but instead worked on my teachers and a couple students. I was like working with brain full of cottonwool; AT and a brain full of cottonwool just don’t mix.

I should have stopped working with my fellow students

I should have stopped working with my teachers

I should have stopped going to school for the day

I should have staying in bed!

The moral to the tale is to listen to my body and not push on regardless it just doesn’t work.

Bed

Alexander Technique, stopping

My groundhog day


My 2nd February has probably lasted as long as Phil Connors, the synopsis IMDb > Groundhog Day (1993) > Synopsis recons Phil’s was around 10 years; i may be still be in my Groundhog Day loop how knows.

My 6am call wasn’t  Sonny & Cher singing “I got you babe” but me knocking on my Alexander teachers door for another lesson, the lessons are now a blur but they seemed to be repetitive initially as I was learning to stop, though I was probably told to stop, I didn’t take the instructions in, neither did I stop. Rather like Phil’s suicide attempts then his 6am alarm again/ my knocking on the door again and again.

I then realised that I had to do something about something, it was time to understand something but what?

Stopping seemed to be a good idea, but I only paused really, I know that now but I thought I was really stopping. There’s a bit difference between stopping and pausing, when I stop I have a choice to do something else, with a pause I was just waiting to continue the same old thing, just like pausing a video.

Choices, choices, choices, is the name of the game: once you understand that is what life is about then you can live. Watching your favourite soap in TV is not a choice, it’s a habit thats stealing your time.

Understanding about choices isn’t the same as doing the choices, you need to be the choices.

Phil’s went through this realisation, finding out what Rita liked and loved and he became the expert in them; Jazz piano, French, ice sculpturing, but Rita still didn’t want him. He gave up with trying and became himself, and in response became the most beloved man in town, and in the morning it’s the 3rd of February and Rita is by his side planning to live together.

I had my first realisation of non-doing and stopping a few weeks ago, the difficulty is doing the non-doing, its so hard not to do and allow. Not doing and allowing is such a wonderful place to be in

The moral of the movie is to be honest and love yourself and then people will respond to you and may even love you back. Rather like the Alexander Technique.

Alexander Technique

I thought a was OK but little did I know


Sometime years ago my Alexander Teacher gave me a questionnaire to fill in, I think it went of the STAT for analysis. One of the question was about why you choose the Alexander Technique. I replied about something about that it improved my wellbeing.

Improving my wellbeing was the truth but not the full truth, it was the only truth I could see. The real reason was well hidden in layers of protection and denial. I enjoyed the calm, peace and space I received during each lesson.

Looking back, I must have been a difficult student but I kept going back for more lessons.

On reflection, I was a bull in a china shop, I just wanted to plough on no matter what, I couldn’t stop as I would be found out that I was a fraud, I didn’t deserve the life my wife and I have built from scratch, something bad would happen if I stopped, I must keep going. My Alexander lessons were a 40 minute sanctuary where I could hide and be safe.

When the questionnaire appeared I was in a state of self loathing though successful in my work and my personal relationships. I had difficulty in breathing apart from the 40 minutes a week. I recon I was a mess.

Perhaps improving my wellbeing was right, when I started of this blog the plan was to get around to saying, “I use the Alexander Technique to manage my asthma”. Asthma was just a subset of my problems and at the time wasn’t accessable during a lesson. I seem to remember the majority of lessons were about stopping and non-doing but I didn’t really do the non-doing, I just paused for 40 minutes. I must have gotten something out of the lessons as I’m now doing my teacher training. It’s from what I know now I can reflect on the past. Stopping and non-doing have been a real challenge for me, i’m a doing sort of person, I like to get my back into things.

This non-doing stuff, can’t I just bypass it get on with things?

Changing from a doer to a non-doer takes time, for me a few years. I’m on the brink of becoming a non-doer, hence this flurry of blogs; I’ve been holding in for years and I want to let it out now. Being a non-doer gives me time to reflect and get things done, a real oxymoron. Having time to reflect gives time to plan and do with efficiency, effectively and efficaciously just as FM envisaged. And whoever or whatever was chasing me has given up the chase.